These questions can drive a person nuts when they are still recovering from an episode. It can slow down the recovery or even set it back a little. The way I see it is simple:
Don't share until you are stable if the person you are telling is emotionally invested in your well-being (i.e. - parents, spouses, etc.) This can cause them unnecessary worry and make them feel obliged to offer up unsolicited advice. Find someone you can share with who is outside of your real world support group. Having someone to talk to that will remain clear-headed is a must. So many folks are concerned about being transparent with their loved ones that they forget that this healing process is for them too! Take time out for yourself. Any other approaches to these questions, let me know!